The power of vulnerability

by Keith.

Here is a TED talk from Brene Brown titled “The Power of Vulnerability”

Some quotes I pulled (with added thoughts):

-“Life’s messy, love it.” vs “Life’s messy, clean it up.” – I think this is an interesting thing to think about. I definitely fall more on the “love it” side, I mean, you kind of have to when you live in a house with 13 other guys…
-“Connection is why we’re here. It’s what gives purpose and meaning to our lives.” – We are creatures made to be in relation to one another. I believe this with all of my soul.
-“When you ask people about love, they tell you about heartbreak. When you ask people about belonging, they’ll tell you their most excruciating experiences of being excluded. When you ask people about connection, the stories they told me were about disconnection.” – Again, relativity. Sometimes it’s easier to define something by what it is not, than what it actually is. Shadow am I!
-“Shame is the fear of disconnection.”
-“In order for connection to happen, we have to allow ourselves to be seen… really seen.” – Studies have shown that being embarrassed gains trust with people.
-“There was only one barrier that separated the people that have a strong sense of love and belonging and the people who really struggle for it, and that is, the people who have a strong sense of love and belonging believe they’re worthy of love and belonging.” – whoa.
-“Courage comes from the latin word cuer, meaning heart, and the original definition was to tell the story of who you are with your whole heart.”
-“The courage to be imperfect.” – I think this is really important. We need to reject the ideals and embrace who we are. Imperfection is humanity.
-“We cant practice compassion with other people if we cant treat ourselves kindly.”
-“They were willing to let go of who they thought they should be in order to be who they were.”
-“The willingness to say I love you first. The willingness to do something where they are no garauntees. The willingness to breath through waiting for the doctor to call after a mammogram. The willing to invest in a relationship that may or may not work out… they thought this was fundamental.”
-“It’s neither good nor bad… it just is.” – it is what it is, and that’s all that it is.

After typing up all of that, the friend who told me about this video, Becky, told me Donald Miller did a blog post about it, and it’s pretty similar to what I did here. Um… oops? I just pulled out some quotes that I really liked from it. A spark notes for those who don’t want to spend the whole 20 minutes watching the video… but if you’re someone who doesn’t want to watch a really long video, you’re probably the kind of person that doesn’t want to read a bunch of text either…

Really profound stuff to think about…